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Wednesday, August 03, 2005

Sometimes it's good to share

Ok, this may seem "off-topic" (if that's even possible with my varied ramblings), but as the dr-in-training, I feel it is kinda my job to share useful pieces of information. While doing some research on an unrelated topic, I found this site which had the best description of emotional immaturity I've ever seen. This information is useful in either detecting areas of immaturity in yourself for the purpose of improving, or to understand people with these kinds of behaviors and motivations.

SYMPTOMS OF EMOTIONAL IMMATURITY
1. Volatile EmotionsEmotional volatility is indicated by such things as explosive behavior, temper tantrums, low frustration tolerance, responses out of proportion to cause, oversensitivity, inability to take criticism, unreasonable jealousy, unwillingness to forgive, and a capricious fluctuation of moods.
2. Over-DependenceHealthy human development proceeds from dependence (I need you), to independence (I don't need anyone), to interdependence (we need each other). Over-dependence is indicated by; a) inappropriate dependence, e.g. relying on someone when it is preferable to be self-reliant, and b) too great a degree of dependence for too long. This includes being too easily influenced, indecisive, and prone to snap judgments. Overly-dependent people fear change preferring accustomed situations and behavior to the uncertainty of change and the challenge of adjustment. Extreme conservatism may even be a symptom.
3. Stimulation HungerThis includes demanding immediate attention or gratification and being unable to wait for anything. Stimulation hungry people are incapable of deferred gratification, which means putting off present desires in order to gain a future reward. Stimulation hungry people are superficial and live thoughtlessly and impulsively. Their personal loyalty lasts only as long as the usefulness of the relationship. They have superficial values and are too concerned with trivia (their appearance, etc.). Their social and financial lives are chaotic.
4. EgocentricityEgocentricity is self-centeredness. It's major manifestation is selfishness. It is associated with low self-esteem. Self-centered people have no regard for others, but they also have only slight regard for themselves. An egocentric person is preoccupied with his own feelings and symptoms. He demands constant attention and insists on self-gratifying sympathy, fishes for compliments, and makes unreasonable demands. He is typically overly-competitive, a poor loser, perfectionistic, and refuses to play or work if he can't have his own way.
A self-centered person does not see himself realistically, does not take responsibility for his own mistakes or deficiencies, is unable to constructively criticize himself, and is insensitive to the feelings of others. Only emotionally mature people can experience true empathy, and empathy is a prime requirement for successful relationships.

Hopefully you'll find this info, if not useful, at least interesting. ;)

1 Comments:

  • At August 3, 2005 at 2:36 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Well...erm...if one reads this with a particular bent, I'm probably as mature as I look.

    I'm going to go ahead and err on the side of "maturity".

     

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